Xcode no longer connects to apple tv 4k device in manage run destinations

xcode will no longer connect to my apple tv 4k device in manage run destinations after I updated atv4k to either public or developer 17 beta. When I go into manage run destinations, while I'm on the remote Remote App & Devices screen on atv4k I see the device in the list and click pair then enter the # and hit connect, but it just says Connecting and never connects. I've tried unpairing from both manage run destinations app on mac and from atv4k Remote App & Devices screen. I've restarted both mac & atv4k. I've updated to latest Xcode 15 Beta 7, but also had this problem on previous Xcode 15 Beta versions. Note, Xcode production version and Xcode 15 Beta versions could connect just fine to my atv4k device prior to installing either public or developer 17 beta on it. If I open Xcode 14.3.1 it will connect to the atv4k device just fine (even when atv4k is running beta tvos 17). Anyone know why the xcode beta won't connect?